Sortie Culturelle
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La culture, moins on en a, plus on l'étale!
Début de l'événement
30.05.2023 - 18:00
Fin de l'événement
02.05.2021 - 20:00
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75000
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Paris
What’s Your Definition of Love?
Description
An Ode to Emily
More Than Meets The Eyes
Should I Tell Her How I Feel?
The Play Date
Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride
The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be
When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Should You Settle?
Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?
Cheating is a Cop Out
The Dance of Second Chances
It’s taken me years to learn that this is a question two people dating need to ask each other. It’s taken me even longer to figure out my own answer. Based on my dating experience, I can probably tell you what it is not - it is not great sex, it is not passionate kisses and giddy phone calls, it is not butterflies in your stomach, it is not innocent and it is not painful. But I - like most people - struggle to articulate what it really is. What is my definition of love?
In my quest for an answer, I’ve been gathering bits of articles and snippets of novels, methodically entering them in my journal trying to piece together an answer. Here’s the snippet that comes closest to my definition:
Together they had overcome the daily incomprehension, the instantaneous hatred, the reciprocal nastiness, and fabulous flashes of glory in the conjugal conspiracy. It was time when they both loved each other best, without hurry or excess, when both were most conscious of and grateful for their incredible victories over adversity. Life would still present them with other moral trials, of course, but that no longer mattered: they were on the other shore. - Love in the Time of Cholera (Gabriel Garcia Marquez)
In my 20s, I idealized love - it was the stuff they made movies of. Marriage was this bliss that resulted from a whirlwind meeting, a dreamy courtship and a recognition of your soulmate. In my 30s, I know better. After exiting a very long relationship - my starter marriage, if you will - I realize that love is not the grand overatures you see in movies. The love that lasts is the love that has strong roots planted in a bed of commonality. Now I know this doesn’t sound terribly romantic to most, but hear me out.
Life happens. Whether you’re married or not, life happens. And you have to get through life. You have to be able to deal with the things that life throws your way. In a marriage, you have to deal with those things together. If there are few common viewpoints, sparse shared opinions and infrequent agreements, then how can you possibly tackle life together?
When I think about the person I want to be with for the rest of my life, I think of a partner in crime. The Robin to my Batman, the Bonnie to My Clyde, the Bert to my Ernie - you get the picture. As you can see, these are not romantic duos - they are strong partnerships that together have super power like success.
I’ll know I am in love when I meet that person with who life seems almost easy. It won’t feel like butterflies in my stomach, but it will be my secret super power.
More Than Meets The Eyes
Should I Tell Her How I Feel?
The Play Date
Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride
The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be
When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Should You Settle?
Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?
Cheating is a Cop Out
The Dance of Second Chances
It’s taken me years to learn that this is a question two people dating need to ask each other. It’s taken me even longer to figure out my own answer. Based on my dating experience, I can probably tell you what it is not - it is not great sex, it is not passionate kisses and giddy phone calls, it is not butterflies in your stomach, it is not innocent and it is not painful. But I - like most people - struggle to articulate what it really is. What is my definition of love?
In my quest for an answer, I’ve been gathering bits of articles and snippets of novels, methodically entering them in my journal trying to piece together an answer. Here’s the snippet that comes closest to my definition:
Together they had overcome the daily incomprehension, the instantaneous hatred, the reciprocal nastiness, and fabulous flashes of glory in the conjugal conspiracy. It was time when they both loved each other best, without hurry or excess, when both were most conscious of and grateful for their incredible victories over adversity. Life would still present them with other moral trials, of course, but that no longer mattered: they were on the other shore. - Love in the Time of Cholera (Gabriel Garcia Marquez)
In my 20s, I idealized love - it was the stuff they made movies of. Marriage was this bliss that resulted from a whirlwind meeting, a dreamy courtship and a recognition of your soulmate. In my 30s, I know better. After exiting a very long relationship - my starter marriage, if you will - I realize that love is not the grand overatures you see in movies. The love that lasts is the love that has strong roots planted in a bed of commonality. Now I know this doesn’t sound terribly romantic to most, but hear me out.
Life happens. Whether you’re married or not, life happens. And you have to get through life. You have to be able to deal with the things that life throws your way. In a marriage, you have to deal with those things together. If there are few common viewpoints, sparse shared opinions and infrequent agreements, then how can you possibly tackle life together?
When I think about the person I want to be with for the rest of my life, I think of a partner in crime. The Robin to my Batman, the Bonnie to My Clyde, the Bert to my Ernie - you get the picture. As you can see, these are not romantic duos - they are strong partnerships that together have super power like success.
I’ll know I am in love when I meet that person with who life seems almost easy. It won’t feel like butterflies in my stomach, but it will be my secret super power.
Début de l'événement
08.01.2023
Fin de l'événement
08.01.2023
What Your Facebook Status Says About You
Description
5 Ways To Prove You’re Really In Love!
Why Dating A Geek/Nerd Is Good Strategy
Break-Up Do’s And Don’ts
The “Straight” Dope On Traditional Marriage
Things I Wish Mom Told Me About Dating
The Struggle of Modern Love
The Perils of Dating a Married Man
A Woman’s Guide Of Back Hair Acceptance
10 Things Every Single Man Needs
Epic Meet-Cute Scenarios for Online Daters
10 Things Every Single Woman Needs
INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE
Okay, you’re a girl. We get it. You’ve been one you’re whole life and will probably be one the rest of your life. You’re out to just be you and that quote is the only thing in the world that understands you right now! Wild hearts can’t be broken, right? Dance like nobody’s watching, right? Well we’re all watching. Enjoy the next Zac Efron movie.
WORN OUT MOVIE QUOTE
Oh cool you like Talladega Nights! Haha! Will Ferrell sure is funny! I love that “Dear Baby Jesus” scene! Oh nice I loved Step Brothers! “Boats and Hoes” LOL. Stop it. This movie came out years ago and absolutely every part of it is annoying now. But maybe it’s on TV so it’s quotable again right? And let’s be honest that boats and hoes stuff is pretty fucking awesome right? Absolutely wrong. We get you’ve seen the movie. We’ve all seen the movie. You must be pretty excited for The Hangover 3.
WHAT YOU DID/WILL DO TODAY
Believe it or not we absolutely do not care about how well the remodeling of your bathroom is going or how well lunch with your boyfriend went. Go live your life. Put down your phone and just go do those things. Sure some people may not know you’ve done those things but we didn’t really care anyway and you seem like the kind of person that verbalizes every thought they ever have because of it. Here’s an idea: get a diary. And then when you run out of space in that diary, burn it, and get a new one.
TIRED JOKE LIFTED FROM A WEBSITE
Hey that’s clever. It was pretty funny the first time I saw it on somebody else’s status three years ago. Also, not that funny. It looks bad when you steal jokes from the internet and portray them as their own. It’s not hard to pick the joke thieves out. Just think: is this person clever enough to come up with this themselves? (hint: probably not)
“LMS FOR…”
WHOA. Psychopath. When did you get so weird? Guess who I’m avoiding next time I’m in town. (It’s you). This also applies to anybody who liked this status.
SOMETHING POLITICAL
We’re all happy you feel the way you do and we’re all weirded out that you think proposing it on Facebook is going to change somebody’s mind. Well I’m sorry but in the 4,098,738 attempts, there have been zero successes in the history of Facebook. You’re just going to argue with some dumb asshole until you’re both dumb assholes. Congratulations on being a dumb asshole.
A JOKE YOU’VE WRITTEN
Hey that’s funny! And if it isn’t funny at least it’s original! I appreciate your originality and thanks for not deliberately wasting my time with bullshit!
NOTHING
Congratulations. You are everything that’s right in this world and I have a lot to learn from you, Internet Jesus.
Why Dating A Geek/Nerd Is Good Strategy
Break-Up Do’s And Don’ts
The “Straight” Dope On Traditional Marriage
Things I Wish Mom Told Me About Dating
The Struggle of Modern Love
The Perils of Dating a Married Man
A Woman’s Guide Of Back Hair Acceptance
10 Things Every Single Man Needs
Epic Meet-Cute Scenarios for Online Daters
10 Things Every Single Woman Needs
INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE
Okay, you’re a girl. We get it. You’ve been one you’re whole life and will probably be one the rest of your life. You’re out to just be you and that quote is the only thing in the world that understands you right now! Wild hearts can’t be broken, right? Dance like nobody’s watching, right? Well we’re all watching. Enjoy the next Zac Efron movie.
WORN OUT MOVIE QUOTE
Oh cool you like Talladega Nights! Haha! Will Ferrell sure is funny! I love that “Dear Baby Jesus” scene! Oh nice I loved Step Brothers! “Boats and Hoes” LOL. Stop it. This movie came out years ago and absolutely every part of it is annoying now. But maybe it’s on TV so it’s quotable again right? And let’s be honest that boats and hoes stuff is pretty fucking awesome right? Absolutely wrong. We get you’ve seen the movie. We’ve all seen the movie. You must be pretty excited for The Hangover 3.
WHAT YOU DID/WILL DO TODAY
Believe it or not we absolutely do not care about how well the remodeling of your bathroom is going or how well lunch with your boyfriend went. Go live your life. Put down your phone and just go do those things. Sure some people may not know you’ve done those things but we didn’t really care anyway and you seem like the kind of person that verbalizes every thought they ever have because of it. Here’s an idea: get a diary. And then when you run out of space in that diary, burn it, and get a new one.
TIRED JOKE LIFTED FROM A WEBSITE
Hey that’s clever. It was pretty funny the first time I saw it on somebody else’s status three years ago. Also, not that funny. It looks bad when you steal jokes from the internet and portray them as their own. It’s not hard to pick the joke thieves out. Just think: is this person clever enough to come up with this themselves? (hint: probably not)
“LMS FOR…”
WHOA. Psychopath. When did you get so weird? Guess who I’m avoiding next time I’m in town. (It’s you). This also applies to anybody who liked this status.
SOMETHING POLITICAL
We’re all happy you feel the way you do and we’re all weirded out that you think proposing it on Facebook is going to change somebody’s mind. Well I’m sorry but in the 4,098,738 attempts, there have been zero successes in the history of Facebook. You’re just going to argue with some dumb asshole until you’re both dumb assholes. Congratulations on being a dumb asshole.
A JOKE YOU’VE WRITTEN
Hey that’s funny! And if it isn’t funny at least it’s original! I appreciate your originality and thanks for not deliberately wasting my time with bullshit!
NOTHING
Congratulations. You are everything that’s right in this world and I have a lot to learn from you, Internet Jesus.
Début de l'événement
18.11.2022
Fin de l'événement
18.11.2022
Why Authenticity is Key in Online Dating for Men
Description
A Simpler Guide to Single Men
Top 10 Signs He Is Cheating On You
Check Out Girls Without Getting Caught
10 Steps to Get Over Your Ex
How To: Forget Your Dating Check List
A Female Player's Strategy: The Preemptive Strike
It's Okay To Be Needy
Why Klutzy Women Are Attractive
How Being A Bitch Can Save Your Love Life
Men Play Dating Games Too
Say, “Okay”, pull out your IPOD, Droid, etc. and take her picture!
on June 1, 2010 at 3:42 pmSidewinder
There’s a pathology of paranoia that is starting to develop in these posts. The gist of the advice can basically be summarized as “do not acknowledge any real connection with her at any time. Do not communicate with her honestly. Do not ever give her the security of knowing that you are there for her.”
I have to say it is a pussy approach to relationships. It is operating under the constant fear that once she knows the real you, and feels that you are there for her, she will look to leave you for someone else. So to avoid this, (the pathology goes), you keep her in a perpetual state of uncertainty and she will always be pursuing security from you like a horse chasing a carrot on a stick.
You will never share your life with another person if you are always living in fear, always one step removed from your own life, tactically trying to control things that are inherently uncontrollable. You have to live your life in the first person, not the 3rd person. If you want to maintain a LTR, you have to share yourself, learn to tolerate some risk, and buy into something that you won’t be able to always control.
[ed: reread the post. i said "first few weeks" of dating the girl. if you've been with a girl for a few months, then yeah, you can go ahead and approach the relationship with more sentimental romantic candor. but she's gotta earn that first, which means you have to be getting the sense that the shit tests and beta baits are diminishing in frequency. if the chick loves you, this positive change will start to happen around month three.]
on June 1, 2010 at 3:45 pmxsplat
Q”Take a picture, it’ll last longer”
A”What?”
Q”Take a picture, it’ll last longer”
A”What?”
Q”Take a picture, it’ll last longer”
A”WHAT?”
Repeat until she figures out you are yanking her stupid chain. Then non sequitur as if the stupid conversation never happened.
on June 1, 2010 at 3:46 pmPA
That’s not to say that being helpful to yuor wife is beta. It’s just odd that, perhaps unfairly to Al Gore, this is the one Tipper quote about Al in the article.
Top 10 Signs He Is Cheating On You
Check Out Girls Without Getting Caught
10 Steps to Get Over Your Ex
How To: Forget Your Dating Check List
A Female Player's Strategy: The Preemptive Strike
It's Okay To Be Needy
Why Klutzy Women Are Attractive
How Being A Bitch Can Save Your Love Life
Men Play Dating Games Too
Say, “Okay”, pull out your IPOD, Droid, etc. and take her picture!
on June 1, 2010 at 3:42 pmSidewinder
There’s a pathology of paranoia that is starting to develop in these posts. The gist of the advice can basically be summarized as “do not acknowledge any real connection with her at any time. Do not communicate with her honestly. Do not ever give her the security of knowing that you are there for her.”
I have to say it is a pussy approach to relationships. It is operating under the constant fear that once she knows the real you, and feels that you are there for her, she will look to leave you for someone else. So to avoid this, (the pathology goes), you keep her in a perpetual state of uncertainty and she will always be pursuing security from you like a horse chasing a carrot on a stick.
You will never share your life with another person if you are always living in fear, always one step removed from your own life, tactically trying to control things that are inherently uncontrollable. You have to live your life in the first person, not the 3rd person. If you want to maintain a LTR, you have to share yourself, learn to tolerate some risk, and buy into something that you won’t be able to always control.
[ed: reread the post. i said "first few weeks" of dating the girl. if you've been with a girl for a few months, then yeah, you can go ahead and approach the relationship with more sentimental romantic candor. but she's gotta earn that first, which means you have to be getting the sense that the shit tests and beta baits are diminishing in frequency. if the chick loves you, this positive change will start to happen around month three.]
on June 1, 2010 at 3:45 pmxsplat
Q”Take a picture, it’ll last longer”
A”What?”
Q”Take a picture, it’ll last longer”
A”What?”
Q”Take a picture, it’ll last longer”
A”WHAT?”
Repeat until she figures out you are yanking her stupid chain. Then non sequitur as if the stupid conversation never happened.
on June 1, 2010 at 3:46 pmPA
That’s not to say that being helpful to yuor wife is beta. It’s just odd that, perhaps unfairly to Al Gore, this is the one Tipper quote about Al in the article.
Début de l'événement
11.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
11.10.2022
Yeswikiday
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Une journée pour faire avancer le projet Yeswiki dans la bonne humeur
Début de l'événement
30.04.2020 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement
30.04.2020 - 16:00
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https://yeswiki.net/?DocumentatioN
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Youpi ici c'est le titre
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Un événement autour du vin, c'est pour cela qu'il est à Bordeaux...
Début de l'événement
08.01.2020
Fin de l'événement
10.01.2020
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Bordeaux
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